I Went To Jamaica For Two Years And Just Found Out I Am Divorced

I Went To Jamaica For Two Years And Just Found Out I Am Divorced.


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Anonymous Question: Hello, SashaMonique, I went to Jamaica and stayed for two years because I love acting and singing but the market is not good in the state where I live. Many days I dreamed about living in Jamaica, it was something that I was adamant about.

The problem is, I have a husband of seven years and he is really kind and sweet but I told him that I wanted to move to Jamaica and he said that he couldn't go because he had a lot going on in his career right now and he knew that it would harder to establish himself in a career in Jamaica.

My husband told me to go and he would support me in anything that I wanted to do.  Secretly, I was hoping he would change his mind and come with me.  Never have I had a problem with my husband and we were truly in love with each other.

So, two years passed and I decided to come home and when I opened the door, I saw all sorts of letters on the floor and my husband was not there. I went next door to talk to my neighbor and he said that my husband had moved out eight months ago.

My neighbor also told me that my husband was married to someone else, I said that it couldn't be true and he assured me that it was. I did not believe that my marriage was over so I did some more checking and my neighbor was right, my husband divorced me and he did it illegally.

Now, I am in a very dark place in my life, because things did not pan out in Jamaica and I don't have a job or anything.  I am sorry for the long question but I hope that you can help me.

Sashamoniquetalks:  Hello, I am so sorry that this happened to you but I wonder whether or not your husband had a relationship going on before you left because it sounds like this could be a possibility.  Now, I am going to say this, why would you go to another country without your husband?  You took a big chance.

There is a possibility that your husband really loved you but could not deal with you being gone.  Please go and seek some legal advice to see if you can get some financial compensation such as; Alimony because he definitely did this behind your back.

Speak to some of his family members to find out all the details of why your husband married his current wife.  I cannot answer any further because this is a legal matter.

Elderly And Middle- Aged Women Be Honest With Yourself (Catfish)

Elderly And Middle-Aged Women Be Honest With Yourself (Catfish)


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Disclaimer, you are not going to like what I am going to say, so if this offends you, I am sorry.

I am watching Dr. Phil right now screaming at the television. So so tired of seeing elderly women meeting guys on the internet and getting catfished.

  You can not blame anybody but yourself.  You have to be honest with yourself, the truth is, men are not really interested in middle-aged and elderly women, not in no real relationship.

Eventually, you find out that this man is a fraud or never existed, you send all your money to a man because you believe that this man is in love with you; you have never seen this man for crying out loud!

I am not saying that an older woman cannot find someone to date in her real-life but if you are looking to get married, you are sadly mistaken. This lady that I am watching today lost a lot of money and you cannot get it in these lady's heads that this man is not going to be with them.

What is wrong going to events where available elderly men are also looking to form friendships with available older women?  Nothing wrong with it at all!  When I go to my local mall I see elderly people meeting and they bring a single friend to meet elderly gentlemen.

This is a nice way to socialize with other people. I see really beautiful looking older women every single day but a man don't care if you are a nice looking older woman, they don't want old women point, blank, period.

I am middle-aged myself and I refuse to be an old fool.  Please watch these catfish shows so you can learn the signs ladies.  Protect yourself and listen to your family because they are just trying to protect you because they love you.

(Blind Item) He Dated His Own Cousin's Wife. What A Snake!

(Blind Item) He Dated His Own Cousin's Wife.

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Hello, Ladies and Gentlemen, this article is a blind item so here it goes.  The husband was a tall, good looking light brown-skinned man and he was very hardworking, The wife was a plus-sized woman and she always wore her hair in fabulous braids,

 I had never seen anyone's hair braided in such a beautiful manner.  She loved to hang out in clubs while her wonderful husband was at work. This woman was very flirtatious and she attracted a lot of men at the clubs she attended.

Her husband's cousin was a tall, dark and handsome man with brown eyes, he was very soft-spoken but a snake.

He was a snake because, the same club that his cousin's wife went to, he attended also, and they would dance together, they also danced together in the bedroom but the husband nor the cousin's wife did not know what was going on.

 The cousin came home with lipstick on his shirt but he said that he was dancing with the cousin's wife and accidentally her lipstick got on his shirt (Clues!)  The cousin's wife was in denial and was trying hard to work on her marriage.

As time passed, the cousin's wife found out what was going on and she was long gone but the secret was kept for a long time from the husband, but now the covers come off and the cousin is now revealed as the snake that he always been.

I bet this isn't the first time that this man slept with his family's wives and it won't be the last.  Never trust anyone!  (Covers comes off)

My Daughter Is Out Of Control.

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My daughter is out of control!

Anonymous Question: Hello, Sasha, my daughter is fifteen and she is starting to get into trouble and act very wild. I am at my wit's end with this child. She is too big to spank and she knows it and she is sneaking out the house when I go to bed.

 She is not doing anything in school and she was kicked out of regular high school so I got her into an alternative school so she can still get her high school Diploma. She was caught stealing two years ago and she has bought a lot of shame to me. I don't know what to do, Sasha.

Sashamoniquetalks: You said that your daughter is starting to get into trouble, yet you said that she was caught stealing two years ago. It sounds like the problem started two years ago and talk to your daughter very casually to see what occurred.

 You didn't say whether or not her dad is around but it sounds like he isn't because he would be backing you up in this situation. Speak to the Guidance Counselor at her school to see if anything serious is going on at school and also take your daughter for counseling.

 When she sneaks out of the house, call the police so that it can be a record of your daughter doing this so you can protect yourself. Talk to your child's friends parents to see what is really going on. Please let me know what happens regarding this.

Are You Living In Confusion?? (Lessons Learned)

Have you been in that place in your life where you have just sat down and reminisced about your past and the events that took place that may have contributed to you having your moment of enlightenment that made you get up and make changes that have made you into the person that you are today?

 I had that moment today and step by step I felt joy and the power that we as women hold if we just listen to our intuition and our heart.

Life is full of lessons that must be learned and I often think about what could have happened in my life if I didn't take the necessary steps and the faith to push me to make changes.

 With every change in my life, there were rivers of tears, but as the tears fell I still made the change that led to freedom.  Freedom to change my course of destiny.  Freedom to not be held back and held up with someone else insecurity and freedom to love me.

To anyone going through difficult changes right now, the change is in your heart, it is in your mouth to speak greatness, it is in your steps to move you.  Don't be afraid because God will hold your hand while you are making your move, he is telling you and showing you that he got you and just want your trust and faith.

 Below is a video of a song that I love and have been very helpful to me throughout my life and I hope that it will be helpful to you.  The message is clear and the song is beautiful.

Where Do I Fit In The Dating World As An Older Woman?

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Anonymous Question: SashaMonique I am 45 years old and although I take good care of myself, I watch my weight and I dress very fashionable.  I have been told that I look very young for my age and I am not tooting my own horn, but I am very attractive.

 I want to know, where do I fit, in the dating world as an older woman?  I have been single for about 2 years and would like to be in a long-term relationship.  Have gone on a few dates and I am not attracting the type of man I would like in my life.  I have 2 kids and they both are grown and I just want to be in love once again.  

SashaMoniqueTalks:  I am glad that you contacted me because I truly understand your situation because I am an older woman and I have to say that dating is very difficult at this age because a lot of men want to date a young woman.  

There are some men who would love a more mature woman and you would have to go to some events where good, quality men are.  Finding love is never impossible and you didn't say what your hobbies are but find an event where it has men who have the same interest that you have, this could be outings to the movie theater and there are some websites geared to group outings that would make meeting men safer.

  Some years ago I went to an event on a ship and I found it very easy to strike up a conversation and meet single men and there wasn't a lot of pressure on either party. If you are meeting men that you are not attracted to, do not give them your number.

 See if any of your family members have friends that you can be introduced to.  Find out about outings your local church may be going on and go and enjoy yourself.  It is not too late, all you have to do is weed out the undesirables.

He is starting a business with my female friend.

Anonymous Question:  Sasha, I am married to a man who I have known since Grammar school and we have always been close.  He told me the other day since my female friend has a lot of experience in business, he wants to open a business with her. I told him that I want to be a part of the business also and he told me that I don't know anything.

 My husband doesn't usually talk to me like this and I feel like something is going on between the two.  I talk to my friend and she said that she didn't ask to be a part of the business but he figured, she knew all the ins and outs of running a business. I would rather for him to conduct business with a man who is knowledgeable in business instead.  Do you think I am acting silly Sasha?


SashaMoniqueTalks:  There is a possibility that he is really trying to find the right person for the job but he should consider your feelings.  Talk to him again regarding this matter and tell him that you don't feel comfortable with the arrangement. 

 Talk to your friend and tell her that you don't want her to be a part of the arrangement and see what she say's.  Your husband should find a happy medium with someone else who have the same amount of experience because it is not a good idea to start a business with friends because you may have some problems later. 

if I were your friend I would not enter into this arrangement. And no, I don't think you are acting silly.  Please keep in contact with me and let me know what is going on and I will try to assist you further.

Check Out A Man Before You Date Him.

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Ladies, last night I was looking at a website regarding sex offenders, and would you believe, I saw many people that I have seen while shopping and people I  have gone to school with.  There were even men in their 80's on this website.  The website is: http://www.sexoffendersarchive.com/

and you can search using your zip code.  

We have to be very careful when dating and when even having family members around your children.  Most of the men on this site were boyfriends who offended their girlfriend's kids and also men who were left babysitting kids.  You cannot be too careful and I urge you ladies to take your time and check and see if the man you are thinking of dating, is on this website.

Some of us are letting men live with us and having them around our children too fast.  If you care anything about your children, you will stop this practice. Make sure this man is safe to be around children and also whether he has violent tendencies because many women have lost their kids to murder also.

Never sacrifice your children to be with a predator!

The Traits Of A Stalker.

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Stalkers are among us, you guys, they don't always look like the creepy man or woman who is very unattractive and strange acting, in fact, some of them look like the boy or girl next door and they can be very normal and quite attractive.  However, most of them exhibit the same traits and it is very important to learn what these traits are.

 They are very clingy and they want to track your every move.  They spy on you when you least expect it, and they will make your life a living hell.  Below are some videos regarding this subject so you can familiarize yourself with all the things to look for in an unstable lover.

Do not take stalking lightly.  If you are being stalked, please contact the local police authorities as soon as possible and file a police report.

Is Social Media The Devil?

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When we think of the Devil we think of the sneaky ugly figure like the one who is in the above picture but we never take into consideration that he is sneaking into some of our social media activities.  Heavily involvement in social media can cause you to feel a certain way about somebody and it can bring out the worst in all participants.  

Sometimes it is good to pull away from your social media accounts and have real conversations with the people in your life.  Social Media can be used for good but I see the Devil rearing his ugly head on almost a daily basis.  There are people lying, causing trouble, or showing off and you know the real story about their life but they want their situation to appear more fabulous than it is.

There is so much cheating and gossiping going on and if you are not involved in these types of things, sooner or later you will be.  I love social media but I will be pulling back some because it is really addictive.

Turning off social media will give you peace of mind and it will cause you to be more productive.  If you had to un-hook from social media please leave your comments down below.

How To Lose Money And Go Broke.

There are many ways to lose money and go broke but if we listen to other people's stories we can learn from them and prevent the same things from happening to us.  We have to train ourselves to think differently about money.

He Lost His Way And Now He Wants You To Bail Him Out!

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Hello, everyone.  This is not a question and answers session but something that has happened in my personal life at one time or another.

He Lost His Way And Now He Wants You To Bail Him Out!

I was involved with this man many, many, years ago.  He was very self-centered and was only looking for a way to advance his dreams by using women.  He was very attractive and he knew it. 

 He played the game of pretending to be in love with me to accomplish everything that he wanted.  His caresses and his tender kisses were something out of this world.

After a while, I caught on to his schemes and I was finished with him.  For some reason he felt that after all, I had been through, he had a right to try to re-enter my life.

  He didn't realize that this lady had in fact moved on and no longer had feelings to give him a chance.  He didn't have sense enough to have enough pride to not approach me again.

The moral of this story is, never let anyone take you for granted.  If you hurt me once, you will hurt me again.  I don't owe you even a conversation with your sob story of how your life didn't turn out the way you expected.

  Hold your head up high and quickly say no to his advances and keep it moving because you know that he hasn't changed and if he did, let him be a better person for somebody else.  

Sometimes it isn't worth it to give second chances.  Guarding your heart is one of the best gifts that God will give you if you will just listen to him and follow his leading you will have a better result.

Intuition is there for a reason and if you had listened before, you would not be carrying this scar to your heart and your soul. 

 So, his life is in shambles, it is not your fault or your problem.

Let him straighten his own mess and he will be a better person for it.

Should I Let My Daughter Go To The Movies With Her Friends?

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Anonymous Question:  Hello, Sasha, My daughter wants to go out with friends to the movies and then out to eat.  I trust her friends but their older brother who is 27, like my fifteen-year-old daughter, and she told me she didn't feel comfortable with him in the past.  He makes little comments about her looks and her body shape, he would be the one driving them around.


SashaMoniqueTalks:  I would not let my daughter go out with friends to the movies when you already know that their brother likes your daughter because his infatuation with your daughter is not appropriate at all.  See if her friend's parents will let you be the chaperone and if not, let your daughter go out with her friends where you have personally met their parents and other family members.  You cannot afford to be too lax when it comes to your children.

Why Are You Willing To Be His Side Chick?

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I hear women all the time bragging about taking someone's husband or being in a relationship with a man who has numerous women.  I really had to think and see what they are getting out of this kind of relationship.

 Some women have even said that they don't want to be with the man all the time so they choose this kind of relationship because it is flexible; when they don't want to be bothered they know he will go to his wife or the other side chick.

  There are a lot of women going with older men to get them to finance their lifestyle and they really are not attracted to this person but they are in it to get what they get.

What You Don't Realize

This man is using you for sex and sometimes for your money, he just wants you around to stroke his ego and when he is tired of dealing with you, he will go to his other woman or his wife, you are just a temporary fix for his sexual appetite.

He complains about his wife, but he is not making a move to leave her because it is obvious, that he really loves her but he is no good and he really doesn't want to ruin their relationship.

He has kids with numerous women and you don't require much because you know as his side chick you are not going to receive much from him because he is paying a lot of child support or he is ducking the mothers to avoid paying child support.

This jerk is using you as a shoulder to cry on when things are not good at home and you let him come and stay with you a few days and then he is back home with the so-called miserable wife that he is so unhappy with.

A lot of times he doesn't want to be seen out with you because he is dating so many women.

This guy is in and out of jail and he needs you to be his support system when he gets out of jail.  He doesn't care anything about you, you are just a safety net.


You Are Worth More Than This Ladies!

When you are dating a new man, try to see where he is living and who he is living with and ask questions because sometimes a man will tell you directly where he is coming from but there are others that will lie constantly.

 If you catch this man in a bunch of lies when you are first dating, the lies will only get worse and you will find yourself in a relationship that is difficult and it will not lead to anything worthwhile.

You are wearing a dark mask (Rant)

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You think you know me, you judged me with a heavy hand before you got to really know who I am.  Your over-zealous condemnation was assigned to me.  Everybody thinks that you are the Messiah but instead, you are a worker of iniquity. A charlatan and a fraud.

  God knows all the lives that you have destroyed with your judgemental nature.   Your whole problem is, that you are controlling and you will not admit it to yourself or others.    You have ruled people with fear and have whipped them in every way possible with your forked tongue.

  On the worst day of my life, you decided that you were going to play God and lash me with false words.  How dare you play with the position that you say, God trusted you with.  How dare you!

You have used extreme fear and punishment to keep people under your wing.  Yes, they secretly hate you but they thought that you had their best interest at heart.

  You have to remember that God sits high and looks low and he hasn't forgotten the evil that you have done to tear his earthly kingdom down. You have taken advantage of the poor to get to the lifestyle that you have and I am sure that God isn't pleased.

  Everybody will see your demise if you do not change your wicked ways.  So, dark one, I will pray for your soul but please oh please, don't pray for me.

Are You Dating A Cheapskate?

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Are You Dating A Cheapskate???

Well, Ladies, I have and let me tell you, it was no fun at all.  He tried to fool me Ladies, yes he did because he talked a good game and he spent some money on me but when it came to things that was important to me like Birthdays and Holidays I wasn't pleased at all with his choice of gifts.

  Lord, he even came on my Birthday one year and forgot my card and went to the drug store and bought the card and came to my house and signed that bad boy right in front of me.   My thing is this, if you cannot afford to be in a relationship, don't be in one because a relationship is give and take.

You can always tell when a man isn't truly interested in you by his actions.  I am not a gold digger by any means and I understand that sometimes people just don't have it, but, don't expect my best if you are not giving me yours.

  That is the bottom line!  It doesn't take much to make some of us women happy, just don't act like we don't matter.

There are signs ladies that this man is a cheapskate and here they are:

1. Don't want to take you out because it cost to much.
2. Buys you super cheap things.
3. Takes you out but want you to pay half of the cost.
4. re gift things given to him.
5. Makes tons of excuses for not giving you anything.
6. Calls you days after your Birthday.
7. Don't want to take you out to nice restaurants.
8. Wants to watch movies at home because he is too cheap to buy you a Movie Theater ticket.
9. Doesn't put much gas in his car so he can ask you for money.
10. Will not take you out unless he has a coupon.

Ladies, I will never date a cheapskate again because it is too much aggravation and to much work.  I rather hit myself in the head with a hammer than dealing with this type of person. When you see one coming, run for your life, while you still have your self respect.

  If a man really wants to be with you he will try his best to please you.  If he is having some real financial issues, he should discuss this with you because these things happen in life but when you see the signs, keep it moving.

If You Need Some Advice, Please Submit Your Question.

Hello, everyone, if you have any questions that you would like for me to answer, please send them to my email and I will be happy to answer, just keep in mind, if the question is of a serious nature I would not be able to respond and I also don't answer questions from children, you must be eighteen or older. Remember, I can conceal your identity so you do not have to worry about anyone knowing who you are.