Why are you so sad around Christmas time?
I can tell you that living in an abusive marriage or relationship gets worse during the holiday season.
There is so much tension in the air because you may have financial issues or it could be a time when your spouse could be drinking more than usual. You will find that you can be blamed for just about anything.
Your abusive spouse will find fault with just about anything (the kids, your hair, or just you being around.) If your spouse is cheating, he will find a way to start a fight or an argument so he will have an excuse to leave the home to be with his mistress.
You may think that you are hiding your pain but everyone will see that Christmas is a hard time for you. Keeping "the secret" somehow makes you feel that it is not as bad as it is. What people will not tell you is, that being in an abusive marriage is shameful to the person who is dealing with it.
Many times you wonder why this person would pick you for this type of treatment, and you will also ask God why???????
Image of snowflake ornaments, courtesy of Pixabay
Many times, domestic abuse starts with something in your past. A time when you have been slapped or told to shut up and berated by a parent or another adult. You may have seen your parents get abused, and even though you knew this behavior was reprehensible, you allowed this pattern to show up in your life because it was something that you were used to.
If you are reading this post and you have severe sadness during Christmas and you have been abused; it is time to take action. Find a way to save your life and your sanity. It will not be easy, but let me tell you, it will be worth it.
I escaped over thirty years ago. I still suffer from trauma from what I went through. Christmas has never been easy for me, but I am here and I am blessed. Spending precious moments with my family without arguing and being abused is a gift that I can never thank God enough for.
Free yourself! Let this be the last year that you are scared of what this person will do to you. Live, live, live! Take back control of your life! The best is yet to come!
There is so much tension in the air because you may have financial issues or it could be a time when your spouse could be drinking more than usual. You will find that you can be blamed for just about anything.
Your abusive spouse will find fault with just about anything (the kids, your hair, or just you being around.) If your spouse is cheating, he will find a way to start a fight or an argument so he will have an excuse to leave the home to be with his mistress.
You may think that you are hiding your pain but everyone will see that Christmas is a hard time for you. Keeping "the secret" somehow makes you feel that it is not as bad as it is. What people will not tell you is, that being in an abusive marriage is shameful to the person who is dealing with it.
Many times you wonder why this person would pick you for this type of treatment, and you will also ask God why???????
Image of snowflake ornaments, courtesy of Pixabay
Many times, domestic abuse starts with something in your past. A time when you have been slapped or told to shut up and berated by a parent or another adult. You may have seen your parents get abused, and even though you knew this behavior was reprehensible, you allowed this pattern to show up in your life because it was something that you were used to.
If you are reading this post and you have severe sadness during Christmas and you have been abused; it is time to take action. Find a way to save your life and your sanity. It will not be easy, but let me tell you, it will be worth it.
I escaped over thirty years ago. I still suffer from trauma from what I went through. Christmas has never been easy for me, but I am here and I am blessed. Spending precious moments with my family without arguing and being abused is a gift that I can never thank God enough for.
Free yourself! Let this be the last year that you are scared of what this person will do to you. Live, live, live! Take back control of your life! The best is yet to come!
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