I don't want to be bothered with his children

 

Lakeisha is dating a man she has been dating for three years.  He is very kind, but he wants her to spend time with his children.  He has four kids, three girls and one boy.  The girls are teenagers, and the boy is almost twelve years old.  

She has been around the kids on five occasions, but the kids are loud, unruly, and one girl has stolen from her. Lakeisha is very kind to the kids, but she doesn't enjoy being around them. 

She told her boyfriend that she doesn't enjoy being around them, and the boyfriend cussed her out!  He told her that he cannot stay in the relationship if she doesn't like or want to be around his children.

This is my advice to you, Lakeisha!

When you met this man, you knew that he had children.  You have been dating him for three years and now you are just telling him that you don't want to be bothered with his children.  You should have told him this years ago.

You have a right not to deal with his kids, but you need to be honest with yourself and just date men who do not have children.  If you choose to stay with this man and you get married, you will have to deal with his kids regularly.  Do not drag this relationship on any further.  Free yourself! Just because you don't want a man with children doesn't make you a bad person; just be honest with your boyfriend and yourself.

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Are your dreams dead, or should you still pursue them?

        Are your dreams dead, or should you still pursue them?

Hello everyone, first I want to apologize for not updating this blog for a long time.  I have been very busy and needed time away.

So let's get into this.  Are your dreams dead, or should you still pursue them?  I have been blogging for many years and for a while I didn't see any financial benefits associated with blogging.  I was doing it as a hobby and I really loved doing it.  Many times I fell into a slump and just couldn't find the right words or didn't have the drive to blog regularly.  I may step away, but I will never give up on my blog. 

So, you have this dream and you perhaps fell into a slump, your interest changed, or maybe it was very expensive to keep things going.  I am here to tell you not to give up.  There are times when you may have to step away for a while.  Maybe you have been trying to start a business, but it isn't growing like you thought it would.  You may have to continue working for someone else and work on your business part-time.  

I am an advocate of people not sharing all of their dreams with people who may be negative and talk you out of what you want to do for yourself.  Now, if your dreams are interfering with you, paying your bills, or bankrupting you.  Take a little break or find ways that you can do this without costing a lot of money.  Find people who you can barter with that you can work on projects that they need done and they can help you with your projects for a lower cost or no cost.  Make sure that it is an equal exchange. 

If you have to take a long break, you can always come back and start again.  I would also suggest that you join Facebook groups that align with your hobbies or interest to find people who share the same things that you enjoy.    You got this and if your dream right now is out of reach right now, work on something else that you enjoy doing.  Keep pursuing your dreams and do not give up!