I don't want to be bothered with his children

 

Lakeisha is dating a man she has been dating for three years.  He is very kind, but he wants her to spend time with his children.  He has four kids, three girls and one boy.  The girls are teenagers, and the boy is almost twelve years old.  

She has been around the kids on five occasions, but the kids are loud, unruly, and one girl has stolen from her. Lakeisha is very kind to the kids, but she doesn't enjoy being around them. 

She told her boyfriend that she doesn't enjoy being around them, and the boyfriend cussed her out!  He told her that he cannot stay in the relationship if she doesn't like or want to be around his children.

This is my advice to you, Lakeisha!

When you met this man, you knew that he had children.  You have been dating him for three years and now you are just telling him that you don't want to be bothered with his children.  You should have told him this years ago.

You have a right not to deal with his kids, but you need to be honest with yourself and just date men who do not have children.  If you choose to stay with this man and you get married, you will have to deal with his kids regularly.  Do not drag this relationship on any further.  Free yourself! Just because you don't want a man with children doesn't make you a bad person; just be honest with your boyfriend and yourself.

Old Doors Must Be Shut Closed ( Friendships And Relationships From The Past)

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A very close friend from my past decided to get in touch with me and the friendship was going well but it has hit a snag lately.

 It is no fault of mine but it could be expectations that weren't fulfilled and due to family obligations and her work obligations, we didn't have a chance to really enjoy ourselves in our friendship.

 I want to say that friendships from the past are very hard to reconnect because your relationship will never be the same as when you were a child because you are now a person with a lot of different things going on at the same time.

 I am okay with my friend not being available because with her schedule it is very hard to put a time together where we can have some fun time.

I would like to say that I don't think you should open any old doors from your past because they usually don't do well.

  Sometimes people contact you out of the blue for their selfish needs and after they have gotten what they want from you, they are now finished with the friendship.

Never will I again trust someone from my past and if I do see them, I will talk to them but will not try to restart the friendship because time is very important to me and I do not have it to waste.

God separated you from that person for a reason and it is best to walk in his obedience and you will be a happier person.  A lesson learned!